Family Conflict

Normally i avoid political postings but i really wanted to post something on this.  i'm still trying to wrap my head around the issue and hopefully writing this will help me sift through my own feelings on it

A few days back my brother posted something on his facebook wall that sparked a conflict between us.  It was an article to young voters that indicated they were naive if they voted for liberal candidates and as they grew older they would see the error of their ways.  i posted a short reply to it with my own words of wisdom to young voters:  learn about the issues, review voting histories of the politician and not blindly trust in any political promises.  At the end of my reply i indicated that no one should take an article to heart that calls someone naive for voting their conscience.  Apparently that opened the door for my brother to follow up with a half-page long post indicating that liberal voters are not only naive but also brainless.  It included supporting references to at least a half dozen issues some of which i knew were not entirely accurate.  Needless to say i was surprised at my brother so i posted another short, polite reply disagreeing with him on his points about liberals.  i included a reminder that it is conservatives that are blocking Daddy and i from getting married in this country.  i thought that simple reminder would be enough to close out the conversation and we could go back to keeping our politics private.  i learned long ago as a gay man not to engage my deeply religious brother in political discussions if i wanted to maintain peace in our family.  A day later my dear brother posts another message indicating among other things that "no one is preventing me and my partner from getting married."  (What fantasy world is he living in??)  He also reiterated that liberals are naive and that gays are looking for special rights in this country.  He also let me know what a tightrope he walks to keep the family peace while both respecting my lifestyle and maintaining his own religious beliefs.  He said all of this very politely with the sure conviction that he was right and everyone else was wrong.  That's when the brotherly gloves started to come off.  i posted a very restrained response under the circumstances.  i let him know what liberals are not naive or brainless simply because they do not agree with him.  i let him know i found his words offensive and that he needs to respect the opinions of others.  i also let him know that anytime he wanted to discuss same sex marriage in person i would welcome the opportunity but i was not going to discuss it over facebook.  i let him know that i considered the thread to be closed and would not reply again.  He actually did another reply!  i ignored that one. 

So now the conflict.  i love my brother but i also think he is a bit of an ass-hat.  This is not the first time he has let his religious beliefs guide him into an area i have trouble respecting.  He actually declined to come to my commitment ceremony because his minister told him it would be acknowledging & supporting my gay relationship which is against their church teachings.  i never let him know how much that decision disappointed me.  My own brother would not attend the most important day of my life due to religious objections.  i actually find that i respect his wife more than i respect him.  She is that type of deeply religious soul that is so sweet and kind you never want to see her hurt.  In the years i have know her, i have never heard her say a single unkind word about anyone.  i know that she believes in her religion deeply but has never done or said anything hurtful to Daddy or i about being gay.  i suspect she is the only reason why my brother is even trying to be nice to the man i love.  So, what is my solution to the conflict?   i keep thinking i could launch a fiery reply to his last message telling him where he could insert his beliefs.  As satisfying as i think that would be, i recognize the irony of my disrespecting his beliefs and i know all it would do is cause more drama in the family.  So, i'm just staying quiet and forcing the argument to go away.  But, my solution makes me feel like i'm being a coward for not standing up for my own beliefs.  Sure, i called him on how offensive his words were and i let him know i disagreed with him.  Should i be doing more or should i just force the confrontation to go away and keep the peace?

What about you, the readers?  Have you run into this in your family?  How did you handle it?      

Happy Fun Time!

Great news!  Daddy and i played this last Sunday.  i thought you guys might like to hear about it.   

While i was in the shower getting cleaned up, Daddy prepared one of the living room recliners by running a length of rope under it.  Once i dried off, Daddy put my normal wrist & ankle cuffs back onto me.  He had be lay back into the recliner and while fully extended in the chair He secured the rope to the cuffs.  He checked the rope to make sure there was no slack left in it at all.  He then told me that this was going to be a bondage scene and not a chastity scene so He was going to allow me to have an orgasm at the end of it.  Talk about a pleasant surprise!  That said, He added a blindfold and i could hear Him start a porn in the DVD player.  Within moments i could hear the sounds of multiple men engaged in some kind of rough sex.  With these sounds filling my ears, i could feel Daddy touching my chastity cage and removing the lock.  i sprang to full attention as soon as the cage was removed.  Daddy started the play with some light slaps and rubbing just to make my skin more sensitive.  Then He added a few clothespins to my nipples to add to the excitement.    Before the play got anymore intense, He leaned in close and kissed me a few times to let me know He loved me.  And then the play started for real.  Daddy spent the next hour alternating between pain and pleasure.  For the pleasure, Daddy used a well lubricated flesh light to bring me right to the edge of release.  For the pain, Daddy alternated different types of slaps all over my body.  Sometimes He used His hand and sometimes He used a riding crop.  He varied the speed and intensity of the slaps so i could not get used to them.  He roamed all over my body.  He even did the soles of my feet at one point.   (That was kind of fun; i hope W/we do that again some more.)  And knowing how much i love cbt, He spent a lot of time there.  He continued to torture me until He saw i was no longer at the edge and i had started to soften and then He switched back to the fleshlight again.  This continued for roughly an hour before Daddy finally allowed me to cum.  

It was a very enjoyable session :)

Daddy took some video of the scene and is trying to upload it to Xtube.  i'll post a link later. 

Insecurity

Argh!  i hate it when my insecurities get the better of me.  i'm fairly well-balanced most of the time but every now and then the little voices in my head start telling me that my world is filled with crap.  This time the voices were telling me that Daddy was getting nothing out of the BDSM portion of O/our relationship and that it was time for me to just take off the gear and put it away for good.  i spent about 24 hours silently analyzing every word Daddy said, every look He gave me, and every action He did or did not take.  Finally i brought the issue up to Daddy fully expecting a major drama.  You can imagine my surprise when Daddy looks at me like i was drunk, high, and possibly insane.  He took on the calm soothing tone of voice usually reserved for small children and let me know everything was OK.  We spent the next couple of hours just talking and working through various miscommunications and misperceptions.  And now all the little voices have gone silent again 

So, the moral of this post is that communication is the most important skill you can bring to a relationship.  The second most important skill is the abilty to calmly talk your partner down from the ledge when he goes just a little bit insane

Sleep Study

Not sure if i mentioned it earlier in the blog but i had to go in for a sleep study.  If you are into medical play scenes and you have not done a sleep study, i highly recommend it.  Picture it: you are getting ready for bed when a stranger wires up your body with at least a dozen pads.  He tells you that as you sleep, he will be watching you through cameras mounted on the walls and your every physical reaction will be monitored and recorded for others to review.  Nothing sexual about that at all?   i went in for the first study back in March.  i had to admit that i felt guilty during the set up because it came across as so D/s that i kept thinking to myself "shouldn't Daddy be here for this".  Anyway, i got the results of the first study back and sure enough i have sleep apnea.  i scheduled a return appointment for this past week so i could do the study again while hooked up to a CPAP machine.  Now picture the same study with the same feelings of sexual tension as before but now with an element of breath control.  How do we not have scenes like this in dungeons across the world?  i would not be a bit surprised to see Daddy come into the dungeon wearing scrubs and carrying a bundle of wires one of these days

Another long break in the blogging. Argh!

Another long break in the blogging.  Argh! 

Got all kinds of news though.

Daddy and i decided to take a short break from the chastity play.  It lasted for roughly 2 weeks before Daddy indicated it was time for another chastity session.  Of course it might have had something to do with the all-male pool party we were hosting that same day ;)  For whatever reason, i'm glad to be back in the cage again.  It was weird not to wear it for those two weeks.  It felt like something was missing between my legs.  Now that i'm wearing it again, i feel more complete. 

Back to the pool party...it was a fabulous success!  We had roughly 35-40 gay men splashing around in our pool and about half of them were daring enough to swim naked.  i caused a bit of a commotion when i took off my trunks and everyone saw my chastity cage.  i was a little concerned but the group was all kink-friendly so i knew no one would freak out about it.  One of the guests even pulled me aside to let me know that his boy normally wears a cage as well but was allowed out for the
party.  It was kind of nice to find others who are into the fetish. 

Daddy and i are on vacation for the next few days.  i'm trying to convince Daddy we need to do some BDSM play while we are off work.  After all, we have plenty of time and will be well rested.  Wish me luck!